The crowd is the worst criterion for happiness — Seneca
It’s easy to fall under the influence of the shared actions and behaviours of a crowd. If you find yourself in one then they may sweep you along; you may not even be aware it’s happening. The bigger the crowd the worse it gets. You’ll find yourself on auto-pilot believing that the opinion of the majority is correct, without any facts to back this up.
Perhaps the way the crowd is behaving is correct? It’s got to be better for you to decide this for yourself; it’s too easy to blindly side with the majority. An activity or situation isn’t good just because most people say it is. I mean, it’s difficult enough trying to do the right thing when an individual is trying to persuade you otherwise. Magnify this to lots of people and you’ll either do what they do or you end up feeling that you should be acting differently to conform. Neither of these outcomes is ideal.
The right way to behave
I recommend that you spend time reflecting on the right way to behave. A lot of people are indeed greedy, ambitious, cruel, and so forth. If you can try to train yourself to avoid such attitudes, but you might be better off decreasing exposure as much as possible. Surround yourself with people who’ll help you with this. Learning from each other is two way process, as I’ve mentioned before. But, you’ll find that most people won’t act in this beneficial way as they’re too busy doing what everyone else is doing. For example, they’re catching up on soap operas, reading celebrity gossip magazines, or some other mindless activity. Copy this behaviour then you’ll waste your time, and you can’t afford for this to happen.
But saying this, don’t dislike people because they’re acting like everyone else. The main thing is that you have learned what is important and proper, regardless of what others choose for themselves. Also, don’t think that just because lots of people decide to do something then it’s wrong. You see, there just aren’t any simple rules. So the best advice I can give is to ensure that it is you alone that is deciding what you want, and understanding why.
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